All of us have witnessed the effects of anger - one harsh word can wipe out a lifetime of loving moments. Here's how you and your partner can end relationship negativity. An accurate measurement of how you're doing as a couple is how much negativity...

One of the reasons it is so difficult for people to be fully present in their relationships with their partner is that they have not cultivated a relationship habit or practice.If you went to a gym and saw someone lifting a 50 pound weight, you’d...

In a healthy marriage, roles and responsibilities are discussed because they directly affect each partner's behaviors and responsibilities in everyday life. Whether it's household chores, childcare or decisions that need to be made, partners need to discuss how these roles should be defined and implemented....

Three Relationship Magic Words Most people think of the phrase "I love you" when they think of three relationship magic words. I think there are many magic words to use in relationships. However, in my opinion, the three most extraordinary words to assist with the...

In a conscious relationship, one notices the importance of eye contact. There is an exercise that you can practice with your partner called Eye Gazing. I was once in a Zen monastery called Tassajara, a retreat center in Northern California. While I was ...

Understanding Perspective in Relationships When I'm counseling a couple, often times they both have the same exact experience but have completely different perspectives of what actually happened. Usually one of the partners is trying to impose their perspective on the other, which is what's creating...

As I have said, healthy happy relationships do not just happen, we need healthy habits and habits require effort. One of the habits every relationship needs is the habit of having fun. Your relationship should only be serious 25% of the time while the rest...

“Out beyond rightness or wrongness, there is a field. I will meet you there.” -   Rumi, 13th century Persian poet While the title of this post makes a nice, short headline, the question could be better stated, “Why do couples’ fights become so heated and painful?” and “Is there...

In the 1970s, the divorce rate in the United States rose to 50% and that is where it has hovered for the last 40 years. Many marriage researchers report that marriage today has more pressure on it than ever before. Partners today expect their...