Marriage education needs a little humor. Seriously folks, considering printing out this list and posting it somewhere you'll see it regularly. Marriage needs reminders.   Thou shall practice daily acts of caring and kindness Thou shall not criticize blame...

[caption id="attachment_696" align="alignright" width="325"] Marriage education deepens your understanding of many aspects of your partner[/caption] For young couples, the thrill of engagement and wedding preparations can overshadow an important fact: on the other side of the honeymoon, life as usual...

Overcoming the Tricky Issues around Asking for Love and Caring Behaviors [caption id="attachment_1328" align="aligncenter" width="528"] Asking expressly for the caring behaviors you desire can be a relief to your partner.[/caption] As many of you know, Debbie Seid and I held a Valentine’s Day weekend workshop entitled, “The...

Easy connection can be yours when you communicate intentionally rather than competitively. Everyone wants a safe connection and most are baffled that it’s so difficult to achieve. My previous post, “3 Reasons Typical Couples’ Communication Stinks,” covered just why so many couples feel they...

[caption id="attachment_1828" align="alignright" width="300"] AAArrrrrgggghhhh[/caption] Dialogue is typically defined as an exchange of ideas or opinions on a particular issue. The problem with that definition is, in relationships people often aren’t really listening to each other, and so ideas aren’t truly “exchanged.” Unfortunately, partners who...

[caption id="attachment_1837" align="aligncenter" width="300"] What do you think?[/caption] In my relationship counseling practice, a number of the couples I work with explain with great distress that their spouses have friends of the opposite sex. Frequently these are friendships that developed before the couple met. Some of...

[caption id="attachment_1840" align="alignright" width="300"] Space can be scary; clear communication helps.[/caption] Made of just four little words, the sentence, “I need some space,” can create havoc between partners in a committed relationship. Couples coming to my San Diego marriage counseling offices conflict over this request. The...