We are excited to kick off the new year with updating our blog again. This month we have been focused on sharing resources on how you can grow together with your partner and we feel that having a relationship vision is extremely important.  We enter a...

Many of the challenges we see in couples therapy have common themes: cheating, not supporting me, doesn’t listen, doesn’t stop talking, always blaming, always controlling, never wants sex, always wants sex, doesn’t understand me…. Oh wait, here is a good one… he’s crazy or she’s...

“Forgiveness often comes with a humbling of the heart in which you’re okay with human imperfections.”~ Adyashanti Forgiveness is a concern for at least 80% of my clients. There is so much written on the topic, I wasn’t sure where to begin. So, I decided to...

“Tears are emotions that are so big they can no longer be contained by the body.”~ Debbie Seid, author of The Ladder of Life.  As a marriage therapist, I always remain in a state of curiosity when I delve into a person’s tears. What I’ve noticed is...

In a healthy marriage, roles and responsibilities are discussed because they directly affect each partner's behaviors and responsibilities in everyday life. Whether it's household chores, childcare or decisions that need to be made, partners need to discuss how these roles should be defined and implemented....

Three Relationship Magic Words Most people think of the phrase "I love you" when they think of three relationship magic words. I think there are many magic words to use in relationships. However, in my opinion, the three most extraordinary words to assist with the...

Understanding Perspective in Relationships When I'm counseling a couple, often times they both have the same exact experience but have completely different perspectives of what actually happened. Usually one of the partners is trying to impose their perspective on the other, which is what's creating...

Easy connection can be yours when you communicate intentionally rather than competitively. Everyone wants a safe connection and most are baffled that it’s so difficult to achieve. My previous post, “3 Reasons Typical Couples’ Communication Stinks,” covered just why so many couples feel they...

[caption id="attachment_1828" align="alignright" width="300"] AAArrrrrgggghhhh[/caption] Dialogue is typically defined as an exchange of ideas or opinions on a particular issue. The problem with that definition is, in relationships people often aren’t really listening to each other, and so ideas aren’t truly “exchanged.” Unfortunately, partners who...